45+ Fun Conversation Ideas for Married Couples With Kids To Get Your Husband Talking
Talking is vital to having a fun and happy marriage, but after becoming a mom, you may discover that lively conversation has disappeared from your relationship. Learn how to encourage your husband to open up and get the conversation flowing in your marriage again!
What happens to conversation in your marriage after having kids
In the early days of dating, you got to know your now-husband by talking to him. About everything under the sun. No topic was off the table and you could spend hours in each other’s company sharing and laughing. You fell in love, at least partially, by talking to each other.
Fast forward to today – now you are married or have been together for multiple years and have a kid or two or three to take care. And all that amazing talk that you used to have together?
POOF! It’s gone.
Sure maybe you still talk to each other, but your conversations now consist of planning the logistics of driving your kids to daycare or arguing over who last emptied the dishwasher.
Maybe you throw in the occasional nicety like “How was your day?” only to get a simple “Fine.” in return.
No matter how you look at it, the talk in your marriage seems to gone away and it’s taking all of the fun down with it!
How to get back on track with fun conversation in your marriage
Don’t fret! Getting the talk back in your marriage after having kids can actually be quite simple.
The key is to make sure your quality conversation time is just for fun and connection – not anything practical or sentimental!
Forget the practical topics
After becoming parents, the majority of your conversations likely turned from fun and engaging to practical and perhaps even a little boring.
Suddenly everything you talk about revolves around making plans, delegating tasks, or logistics in taking care of children.
When you are trying to have dedicated quality talk time with your husband, don’t bring up the to-do list. Save the practicalities for another time and place.
Ditch the sentimental prompts
Search the internet for conversation prompts for married couples and you will get suggestions like “When did you feel most loved by me?” or “What is the pain in me that you wish could be healed?”
I’m sorry but these sappy topics are not things that men want to spend their time discussing. Sentimentality and relationship analyzing are just not really their thing. Have you ever heard your husband talking to his friends about their feelings or anything borderline emotional?
If your husband initiates these types of conversations, by all means encourage it! But chances are that if you are the one starting the conversation in this way, your husband will quickly lose interest.
Keep things light and fun
When you want to encourage more talk in your marriage and getting your husband to open up, the key is to keep your conversations light and fun (at least to begin with).
The more you can get him talking to you like he does with his friends, the more at-ease you’re both going to feel and the more natural your conversation is going to flow. Once you’ve connected again on the friends-level, you’ll be able to get him to dig deeper and talk with you about more serious issues as well.
Check out these conversation topics below that are suitable for you both to encourage true connection!
Fun discussion topics to try in your marriage that work for you both
Keeping your husband engaged in conversation doesn’t mean that you are limited to talking about sports or power tools or whatever it is that men stereotypically enjoy talking about.
There are some go-to topics that are usually winners with everybody – things that both you and your husband can always rely on to lead to at least a bit of lively conversation even if you feel like you don’t have anything else in common.
Try these!
Friend and family gossip
Did your best friend just drop $4,000 on an outfit to impress the newest man she met on Tinder? Or did your husband’s coworker ever get that promotion he’s been blabbing on and on about for weeks?
Gossiping may have a taboo as being a not-so-pleasant pastime when you are with your friends or at work, but for spouses, gossiping is an amazing way to connect!
Dishing about your shared friends and family means that you always have a topic you both are knowledgeable about.
It also allows you to openly discuss your values casually with each other by assessing what other people in your lives do. If you start a conversation about “your values in life and marriage,” your husband will probably get turned off pretty quick. But when you are doing it in the hidden way of evaluating those around you, you get to get to know each other on an even deeper level without him even noticing!
Pop culture and current events
Did you see which movies got nominated for the Oscars this year? What do you think about the latest bill passed in Congress? The new iPad just launched and wow does it have a lot of cool features!
Pop culture, current events, new advances in science and technology, etc. are usually relevant and fun topics for discussion. It’s a chance to inform each other about what is going on in the world and to learn each other’s opinions about it.
There is always something new and exciting going on in the world so your opportunities for great conversation are unlimited!
Funny things about your kids
We may tire of hearing stories about other people’s children, but our own children are usually highly entertaining!
I know I said before to keep the practical part of parenting out of your conversation repertoire if you are looking to encourage more talking between you and your husband. And I stand by that!
But talking about the fun, silly, and downright dumb things your kids do is sure to make you both laugh and connect.
Tell each other stories about the goofy things your kids said. Question which of you they inherited their unique behaviors from. Imagine what they will be like in the future.
You’ll quickly discover there are loads of FUN ways to talk about your kids together that aren’t just practical logistics, and that enjoying that aspect of parenthood will bring your both closer together.
Dreams and fantasies
What is your dream vacation destination for next summer? How would you give your backyard a makeover if you could? What do you want to do in your lives together after retirement?
Talking about your dreams and fantasies is a great way for you both to imagine what could be in your lives together, and to learn about each other’s desires.
Maybe you will even find ways to make those dreams come true the more that you and your husband begin to get your marriage back on track!
Anything weird and random!
This is a conversation topic category that is too often overlooked: talk about random stuff!
How much weight do you think an ant could carry if it was human sized? Would you rather have no tongue or only 3 toes on each foot? If you could choose one super power, what would it be?
These weird and funny conversation starters challenge you to think creatively and so far outside of your normal thought process, that you both will do nothing but enjoy talking. You’re almost guaranteed to laugh and to learn something new (albeit goofy) about your partner.
These types of questions are also perfect for married couples with kids because you have your imaginative children to inspire your silliness! You can even bring up these types of questions together as a family to really ensure flowing and lively conversation together.
45 funny and random conversation starters for married couples with kids
These totally weird and out there conversation starters are going to challenge you and your husband to think, open up, and get to know each other in ways you never knew before!
You are guaranteed to keep things interesting and hold his attention with these silly conversation questions.
Funny “would you rather” questions
1– Would you rather have a pet duck or a pet squirrel?
2– Would you rather lick the bottom shelf of your refrigerator or the drain cover in your shower (in their current state)?
3– Would you rather have constant hiccups that came every 10 seconds for the rest of your life or a sneeze that go stuck in your nose for 1 minute every 10 minutes for the rest of your life?
4– Would you rather fly on a magic carpet or a broomstick?
5– Would you rather be able to understand every language but not be able to speak, or have an amazing singing voice but have to sing everything you said?
6– Would you rather have a personal theme song that plays every time you enter a room or have a laugh track follow you around all day?
7– Would you rather be chased by a hundred goose-sized horses or one horse-sized goose?
8– Would you rather have spaghetti for hair or your fingers made of sausages?
9– Would you rather have to speak in rhyme all the time or speak using Shakespearean language?
10– Would you rather have to eat a raw onion like an apple every day or a spoonful of mustard every hour?
11– Would you rather have a permanent cold so you always sound stuffed up or a high-pitched squeaky voice like a chipmunk?
12– Would you rather have the ability to rewind time by one hour each day or fast forward time by one hour each day?
13– Would you rather have to ride a unicycle to work or a tricycle? Would you rather burp confetti or sneeze glitter?
14– Would you rather have a personal foghorn sound every time you make a mistake or a drumroll sound for every accomplishment, no matter how small?
15– Would you rather have to ride a unicycle to work or a tricycle?
“If this” conversation prompts
16– If you could rename the days of the week, what would they be called?
17– If you were a professional wrestler, what would your wrestling name be?
18– If you could swap lives with any fictional character from a TV sitcom for a day, who would you choose?
19– If you could have a conversation with your pet, what would be the first thing you would ask it?
20– If you were in the middle of a zombie apocalypse, which TV or movie character would you choose to have at your side?
21– If we could swap bodies for one day, what would you do in my body?
22– If you got to veto doing one chore for the rest of your life, which chore would you choose never to do again?
23– If we could attend any event together from the past or present day, which event would you want to attend?
24– If you could have any fictional character for a pet, which one would you choose?
25– If we could be contestants together on a game show, which show would you want us to be on?
26– If you could choose a mascot to represent our family, what would that mascot be?
27– If you had a warning manual for yourself that you had to present to other people when they met you, what would you warn people about about yourself?
28– If we could swap lives with any fictional couple for a week, who would you want to swap lives with?
29– If we could create our own holiday, what would we celebrate and how would we celebrate it?
30– If your child was an animal, which one do you think they’d be?
Funny conversation prompts to get to know each other again
31– Which song would be your personal theme song?
32– What’s the most ridiculous excuse you’ve ever used for getting out of something?
33– What’s the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you in public?
34– What animal would you reincarnate as?
35– What’s the craziest dream you’ve ever had that you still remember?
36– What’s the most random talent that you wish you had?
37– What was the best gift you ever got as a kid?
38– What fun fact do you tell about yourself when you meet new people or have team building exercises?
39– What is the best “Dad joke” you’ve ever heard?
40– What prank would you pull if money wasn’t an issue, and who would you choose to prank?
41– What’s the best comedy movie ever that still makes you laugh out loud?
42– What’s one unique skill you wish your child would have in the future?
43– What’s the most silly and random but practical piece of advice you could give your kid?
44– What are the 3 best dance hits you would put on a wedding reception playlist?
45– Who would win a fight between a giant squid and a Great White Shark?
Let’s get talking!
Are you ready, mama?
Don’t spend another day waiting for your marriage to magically get better as your kids grow older and you and your husband grow further apart. Take charge of your life and get the marriage you want and deserve.
Get the conversation started today!
This article is part of the series How to Revive Your Marriage After Kids Fundamental 2: Have More Fun.
About me
Hi, I’m Bailee! I am a mom just like you who, after having my second baby, was struggling BIG TIME to cope with motherhood and marriage. Divorce seemed like the inevitable option until I decided to fight for the family life that I truly wanted.
I challenged my husband to give our marriage one more go and was able to pull us out of the abyss. With a change in my mindset and some other handy tools and tricks along the way, I brought us back into the light of a happy marriage with kids.
Now I am here now to help you do the same! Are you ready, mama? Learn more.
